Call me Ola-kun-le.

“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet” These famous words from Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet have echoed through time, suggesting that a name does not define the true nature of a person or thing. However, if he were here today, he would witness how modern roses without fragrance challenge his words. Names, after all, hold a unique significance. They have the power to shape perceptions and evoke emotions. Allow me to share my personal journey of rediscovering the depth and meaning behind my name, Olakunle, and why it is essential to address me by my true name.

Imagine a rose without fragrance; it may still be a rose, but the experience of its beauty is not complete without its distinct aroma. Similarly, names carry a certain essence that enriches our understanding of individuals and their stories. Just as roses with fragrance delight our senses, the name Olakunle encapsulates a profound meaning. Rooted in the Yoruba language, it signifies “abundant wealth in the home.” Even if you are unfamiliar with Yoruba, trust me when I say that the name Olakunle speaks of prosperity and abundance in the truest sense.

A name is not merely a word; it is a collection of sounds that resonate deeply within us. We hear our names in various voices and tones, from loved ones to colleagues, and in moments both joyous and challenging. Our names become a symphony to our ears, something we can dance to. However, sometimes what we hear can cause panic or discomfort, illustrating the profound effect a name can have on us.

When I was younger, precisely my life before I got to 300 level, that’s my third year in University, most people called me ‘Kunle. By default and simplicity, ‘Kunle was my name. Maybe I grew up into a world that chose ‘Kunle instead of Olakunle, my real name. Not bad for a name. It simply means “abundant at home” without stating what is in abundance. So, during a lecture in my 300 levels, a “good” lecturer who self-aggrandized himself as being popular amongst the students stood me up. He asked for my name and in those few seconds that followed, I thought several thoughts. Asked and answered several questions. Several scenarios played out in my head like in a flash. He knew me so he must know my name. Why then was he asking me for my name? Braggadocio? Maybe an attempt to pass the time, while pretending to teach? I should play along. Help make a show while we are here. If he marks your scripts, it means getting your real name will not be a problem. Can he find that out, on his own? Of course, he can! What do you mean? Tell him…I thought for a short while within the fleeting moments of those few seconds. I adjusted my necktie and puffed my chest, as if I needed an assurance to become the bearer of a name that is so close to my name, yet means almost the direct opposite of my name. “’Lakunle” I said, ignorantly thinking I’d done myself a favour. ‘Kunle I thought needed something to fill it without needing to go back to “O”, so I chose the next syllable before ‘Kunle. As you can guess, If Olakunle means Abundant wealth at home, LAKunle, with LAK or “lack” if you were to pronounce it, then became the word I heard the most.

From that moment forward, I unwittingly embraced a name that resonated with “lack” rather than the abundance my true name represents. Please understand that I am not ‘Lakunle; my name is Olakunle! I share this personal anecdote to emphasize the significance of addressing individuals by their authentic names, as names are not merely words but reflections of identity and heritage.

Names have the power to shape our self-perception and influence how we are perceived by others. Just as calling a gold bar a plank may alter our perception, so too can a name shape our understanding of ourselves. Also, consider the analogy of a dog and an inanimate object placed together during a thunderous roar. While the inanimate object remains unaffected, the dog’s instinct drives it to flee. Similarly, when we are consistently addressed by a name other than our own, it can subtly influence our sense of identity and disrupt our inner harmony.

Olakunle was the name bestowed upon me by my parents, in honor of my grandfather who thought it up, recognizing the potential to create a prosperous and fulfilling life. And he thought well. The name embodies the aspirations and blessings of my ancestors. I embrace this name wholeheartedly, for it signifies the limitless possibilities that lie within each of us. By reclaiming my true name, I am embracing my heritage and affirming the potential for abundance in my life. It took some time and introspection for me to realize the impact of my decision to embrace the name “’Lakunle.” The more I heard it, the more I realized that it contradicted the essence of my true self.

As a person with a creative mind, I understand the power of words and their ability to shape our perceptions and self-image. Each time someone called me “’Lakunle,” I felt a disconnect from the abundant wealth and potential that my true name symbolized. It was as if I had inadvertently distanced myself from the very essence that could empower and inspire me.

Names have the ability to define us, not in a rigid or confining way, but as a reflection of our identity and aspirations. Embracing the name Olakunle means embracing my heritage, the hopes and dreams of those who came before me, and my own vision of abundant wealth in all aspects of life. It is a reminder to strive for greatness, to cultivate abundance within oneself and to create a nurturing and prosperous home not only for myself but also for those around me. The name Olakunle encompasses the richness of knowledge, the wealth of creativity, and the generosity of spirit that I aim to embody.

Reclaiming my true name is not just about personal preference; it is a deliberate act of honoring my roots, my family, and the values they instilled in me. It is an acknowledgment of the power of language and the impact it has on our perception of self and others. Beyond personal names, the act of addressing others by their chosen names extends to our interactions in society. In a world increasingly connected through technology and social media, it is vital to be mindful of how we address and refer to others. Our words have the power to uplift, validate, and empower. By using individuals’ preferred names, we show respect, inclusivity, and a genuine desire to honor their identities.

So, I kindly request that you no longer call me “’Lakunle”. Instead, address me as Olakunle, for it is through this name that I embrace my identity and purpose. Let us celebrate the wealth within, the abundance of possibilities, and the journey toward creating a better, more prosperous world.

As Shakespeare’s Juliet pondered the significance of a name, I too have come to understand its profound influence. Names hold the power to shape our perception of ourselves and others. Embracing the name Olakunle is a step towards aligning with my true essence and embracing the abundant wealth and potential within. Let us remember that names are not just words; they carry the weight of our aspirations and the legacy we wish to create.

In the end, I am not merely requesting a change in how I am addressed. I am advocating for a broader shift in consciousness—a recognition of the power of names, the importance of honoring individual identities, and the potential for transformative dialogue in our nation and beyond.

So again, I humbly ask you, please, do not call me ‘Lakunle. Call me by my true name, Olakunle, and together, let us embark on a journey of discovery, connection, and abundance.

Roses are roses, fragrance is fragrance. What is in a name? It is the essence of our being, the tapestry of our stories, and the key to unlocking the purpose that lies within each and every one of us. Let us embrace our names and the power they hold. Let us celebrate the symphony of diverse voices, for it is in this celebration that we truly find abundance and create a more harmonious world.

Acknowledgements: Olaseni and Olanrewaju.